SINGLENESS

Society has taught that being single is almost like an epidemic that needs to be cured. People in the environment and in the church makes you feel miserable when you're unmarried. When a person get to his/her late 20s or early 30s, the question usually is "when are you getting married?" The pressure you experience makes you feel inadequate or unwanted, most people feel incomplete outside marriage. Marriage should not qualify, dignify, or complete you, it should be an amplifier of the virtue and value you've inculcated as a single. Marriage is a choice not a requirement.

Do not confuse singleness for loneliness, the most important relationship in life is not interpersonal but intrapersonal. Singleness is a gift from God, its a time to build capacity physically, morally, emotionally, and spiritually. It's a period to build a strong and lasting relationship with God knowing that there is nothing else demanding your attention (Eccl.12:1). No one can ever have a fulfilled life without God, singleness gives you the opportunity to fast, pray, study, and discover your purpose in life. Being single allows you to develop inbuilt skills and  talents, to harness the greatness within you and make the world a better place.

Being single gives you time to acquire knowledge. Self knowledge is the key to a successful career, relationship and marriage. Take out time to read and enlighten yourself about certain issues of life. Confusing marriage with maturity has always been wrong, age does not qualify you to get married knowledge does. The most important time in your life is your unmarried time. Loneliness is a state while singleness is a disposition. Your marriage is only as good as your singleness, you bring to the marriage what you are as a single. A successful marriage can only be determined by a successful single life.

Your value shouldn't reduce because of someone else's inability to see your worth. Self love is the most important form of love on earth, no one will love you beyond the way you love yourself. Never look down on your self image, enjoy and make the most of your singleness, build and develop yourself in all ramifications. Singleness is not loneliness but wholeness and uniqueness.